i think my loving bf (21m) is lying about his sexuality / cheating on me (20f) and i don’t know what to do
gonna try to make this short and to the point, me and my bf have ben dating for a year now, i am nonbinary but afab and mostly identify as a woman / dress feminine and have long hair, he is my very first bf and when we started getting intimate i quickly realized i was more kinky than he is, i asked him his kinks, things he’s into, things he wanted to try out of excitement bc of finally having a partner to do these things with (im not big on hookups, i need a connection to be fully aroused with someone irl) he would tell me just normal vanilla sex, and that he was straight, we even did that meme bdsm quiz together and he scored vanilla, and i simply accepted that.
he has a lower sex drive than me and can go weeks without anything while i can go everyday, but i’m fine with this bc he’s extremely affectionate everyday and we are constantly together laughing doing activities and gaming ect and he never makes me feel unloved (constant compliments kissing and surprising) i’ve never once felt worried about how he feels about me, until a few days ago.
because of me frequently staying over at his place i’m often in his room when he goes to work, the other day i got on his computer to watch one of my friends on twitch when i noticed the reddit tab open, id like to preface and say i am not a snooper and don’t believe at looking through a romantic partners devices, however i noticed a chat box open that said “are you still gooning?” that message was sent by my bf about 20 days ago, immediately my heart started rushing, he shouldn’t even know the concept of “gooning” he didn’t even know (or atleast pretended not to know) what bondage was when we met and started discussing sexual taste, so how the hell did he send this???? i feel guilty for snooping but i clicked the profile and it was a gay / sissy hypno account, and i couldn’t stop looking at this point
i’m bisexual and nonbinary, i wouldn’t care if he was also bisexual or gay but finding out your partner is into way more things and dming people related to those kinks after u tried multiple times to please them sexual and fulfill fantasies is just..i don’t know what to think, i kept looking through his account and found a post from 6 months ago made by him iso m4m hookups, specifically the post stated that he wanted to give head, while we have been dating for a year we didn’t make it “official” until maybe four months ago, we went unlabeled but spent all of our time together, if he had hooked up with someone when we were unlabeled i wouldn’t care bc we weren’t technically together but i can’t process how or why he’s hiding this from me.
he had a gmail tab open and i searched the word gay and dozens of gay hookup websites that he used to use prior to officially dating me popped up and at this point i had a sinking feeling in my chest and i quickly deleted the history of my searches and got back in bed, flash forward to yesterday night, i had a long shift and came back to his place around 1 am, i crawled into bed with him and went to sleep, but woke up maybe an hour or two later, i was facing him but barely awake, he was masturbating and looking at something on his phone, i quickly shut my eyes again and just forced myself to go back to sleep
did i mention he has a very low sex drive and barely even masturbated around me? everything has pretty much been the same, same affection and sweetness and laughter and cuddling, and he doesn’t know that i know but i don’t know what to do, i don’t care if he’s gay or bi but it’d break me if he wasn’t happy in this relationship and would rather be dating a cis guy. he keeps saying he’s straight and that he gets enough pleasure when we have sex but i can’t get the “gooning” message out of my mind, i don’t want to snoop again i don’t know what the hell i’ll find i just feel disappointed
in the first few months of officially dating i wanted to try so many sexual things with him i wanted to try kinks and let him use me and whatever else but he only wanted vanilla which i accepted, but after finding this out i feel really idk..unattractive? eventually i stopped trying to request me doing sexual favors for him bc he didn’t seem interested, but now that i know that it could be that he’s not very attracted to me idk what to do
the same day he sent that gooning message was when we spent the whole day together in a creek catching frogs and enjoying the weather, that same day i went to be a little sad we didn’t have sex (as i do most nights) and it had been two weeks since he touched me sexually
as a side note i asked him his thoughts on poly relationships when we first started talking but he said he didn’t like them, i am open to poly but prefer monogamy, and his reddit acc had tons of cucking and cheating / having sex outside of relationships, any thoughts? i could rlly use some outsider opinions i don’t know if or how i’d bring this up to him, i care about and love him deeply, i don’t want him in a relationship he isn’t satisfied with, i don’t know what to do :(

Hello everyone!
I thought I'd share a write up of my aviation journey based around the decisions I made throughout my career progression. I think as aviators we tend to share common struggles and questions ranging from how to choose a flight school to which legacy airline to work for.
I do not present this as an exemplary footstep for anyone to follow (please don't do that - looking back, I shudder at some of my decision making), but just as a fun read and compare what you would have done / had done vs how it unfolded for me.
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October of 2019: I decided to be a pilot. 30 years old with 0 experience.
Problem: I didn't have money. Options: Work and fly as I go or take out $80,000 loan at 8.99% interest rate. Decision: The loan. Reason: I thought getting into the airlines faster by taking the loan and focusing on flying would pay off more in the end. Hindsight: I probably should have done some intro flights first before signing up for 80k loan. lol
Problem: Which flight school? Option: Local flying club 61 or fancy 141 flight school. Decision: 141 '0 to hero.' Reason: I wanted to get everything done as fast as possible. I drank the kool aid often and in large quantities. Hindsight: I think I would have been just fine at the flying club. For some parts of my training, I paid $575/hr for DA-42. I shouldn't have done that. But at the same time, the 141 school did finish everything in a very timely manner. It was expensive, but it delivered.
November of 2019: things weren't going well.
Problem: Airsickness. I kept throwing up. Heavy doubts about career in flying. Options: Quit now and salvage what I can on that 80k loan or keep flying. Decision: Kept flying. Reason: I asked here on Reddit and you guys told me that it should go away. "Don't quit!" Hindsight: I am VERY glad that I didn't quit. Airsickness was a bitch - but it did indeed go away after about 25 hours.
March of 2020: Finished training. Took me about 5 months to go from 0 to CFII. 3 failed checkrides.
Problem: COVID 19. Industry came to a halt. Not many flying jobs to be had. Option: Live with my father and work another job or move to middle of nowhere Midwest to fly. Decision: Moved to Midwest to flight instruct. Reason: It would have saved a lot of money by living with my father, but I wanted to keep flying. Hindsight: This was a good decision. CFI jobs were very scarce and I decided to go where the opportunity was. I was able to build my hours while a lot of my classmates weren't so fortunate.
February of 2021: Adventure
Problem: I got fired from my flight school. Option: Look for another flight instructing job vs YOLO Alaska Decision: Drove to Alaska with 0 plans and started knocking on doors asking for a job. Reason: I was fired from my flight school over severe disagreement regarding forcing flights on students in bad weather. I didn't want to work at another flight school after that and it was impossible to find an instructor job in the middle of COVID. So I drove to Alaska in hopes of finding a job. Hindsight: What an adventure! I was just about ready to hop on a crabbing/fishing ship because I couldn't find a flying job but it worked out somehow! I became a bush pilot in a small village in Western Alaska. This was the best time of my life. I flew A LOT.
October of 2021: Regionals
Problem: Multiple offers from regionals - which one to go? Option: Envoy, Skywest, Republic, Endeavor (Piedmont rejected me - bastards!) Decision: Endeavor Reason: Earliest class date. Hindsight: Endeavor was a great regional. Training was excellent and I loved the people there. I did hate flying out of LGA/JFK though. Back then Endeavor pay was still $53/hr and I couldn't afford to live in NYC. So I lived in a camper van in Long Island area.
May of 2022: ACMI?
Problem: Job offer from Amerijet and ATI and Atlas Option: Stay at Endeavor or go fly 767 cargo Decision: Amerijet Reason: I thought 767 type rating and international wide body flying will be a better addition to my resume than flying in/out of LGA 3x a day in a CRJ. I chose Amerijet based on their very fast upgrade time and promise of a new contract soon. (lol) Hindsight: This was a very difficult decision. My mentors were absolutely torn on how to advise me on this one. Some thought staying with Endeavor and keeping the Delta flow was the safest path. Others thought that 767 is an upward movement and I shouldn't miss out on a widebody opportunity. I think I would have been fine either way, but Amerijet worked out wonderfully. I truly enjoyed my time flying long-haul cargo over the Pacific. I was able to spend a lot of time with my parents in Korea. At the legacy airline interviews, the interviewers all really liked that I had that experience on my resume.
May of 2023: Legacy - 2350 TT, 512 SIC. 3.5 years from my first flight.
Problem: Which airline to choose as my final career destination? Option: Delta, Hawaiian, Alaska, American, and Southwest. (United never called.... :( cry Decision: Hawaiian
Reason: This was perhaps the toughest decision that I had to make in my aviation journey. I lost a lot of sleep over it. Ultimately it came down to choosing between Delta and Hawaiian.
Delta was everything that I expected. Money, glory, hats, sense of elitism and pride of being part of what is now widely considered the best airline in the world. With little doubt, I was looking at years of fine successful career and accomplished life with Delta.
With that said, I was also looking at being at the bottom of 16,000 pilot group with over 50% of the seniority list being new hires since 2014 and life in one of the mainland Gotham cities. But despite all that, Delta has the best benefits and compensation package in the industry and it is hard to turn away the top legacy carrier - or so I thought.
Hawaiian ambushed me in so many pleasant ways. My interview at Hawaiian was my first time going to Hawaii and I was just blown away. It was wonderful. I felt sincere excitement of possibility of living there that I never felt about any of Delta bases. As a 34 year old single guy moving to live in base, I have no doubt that the quality of life is going to be much more desirable at Hawaiian than Delta.
Looking at seniority progression and % of widebody fleet at each company - I am intrigued by the possibility of being a widebody captain at Hawaiian many years faster than at Delta (excluding the 76 fleet on narrowbody pay at Delta). And I would have such easy access to Korea to see my parents since Hawaiian goes to Asia frequently.
The decision making process here was different from my previous decision points. Up until here, I always jumped on first opportunities that gave me better career outlook and progression. But as I was looking into my final career jump - I prioritized quality of life over everything. Money and glory was with Delta, but the life I wanted was with Hawaiian. And I want to be happy!
Hindsight: I don't know - I'll update later I guess. :)
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Well Reddit - my chase is over. But my journey begins! I can only hope that I can keep up with my health to keep flying at my final destination for the next 30 years with a smile.
I cannot thank you all enough for the help and guidance you have given me over the years. Special thanks to the guys that messaged me and called me to give insightful advice whenever I posted here. You guys REALLY helped me to make those decisions.
The U.S. has a very unique and supportive aviation community that is unlike anywhere else in the world. Thank you again. I hope I can continue to grow as a pilot and as an individual to be in a position to give good advice to future pilots to keep the culture going.

Fellow allergy sufferer since childhood here. Since I'm seeing more and more posts about bad seasonal allergies popping up, I thought I'd give some tips that have helped me get through pollen seasons since I was 12.

• Avoid going outside. I know it sucks, especially with such nice weather we currently have. If you were planning to attend a barbecue this week-end, I'd urge you to reconsider. Depending on your level of sensitivity, it might just not be worth it.
• When you do have to go outside (e.g., your trips to and from work), put on a mask. It might raise a few eyebrows and trigger some forgotten anti-covid sentiments, but it will keep some of the pollen away from your respiratory system.
• Once you reach your destination, go to the bathroom and wash your face and nostrils. If you can, use appropriate face washes to not mess up your skin and end up with pimples all over you face.
• Regularly rinse your nose and eyes with physiological serum (the stuff you'd use to rinse a baby's nose, you can find it in some supermarkets and in any pharmacy).
• Keep your windows shut as much as possible and try to only let fresh air in at night, once the sun has set and pollen falls to the ground thanks to the decrease in temperature.
• If you have pets that go outside, use a microfibre cloth to brush out some of the pollen that has accumulated on their fur, especially if you let them sleep in your bedroom.
• If your symptoms are too harsh, get an appointment with your GP and ask for the good stuff: a decent antihistamine, some nasal spray and eye drops. Personally, I've found Avamys and Bellozal to be particularly effective but your mileage may vary.

If allergies become a recurring annoyance in your life, I recommend to go to a specialist who'll screen which allergens your body is sensitive to and assist you in the next steps. These could include a desensitisation therapy to lessen the symptoms overtime, though they will likely never fully disappear.

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Tuesday, 6 June – 4:20 PM India Standard Time (IST; 10:50 UTC)

JTWC Warning #1		2:30 PM IST (09:00 UTC)
Current location:		11.9°N 66.0°E
Relative location:		1,070 km (665 mi) SW of Mumbai, Maharashtra (India)
Forward motion:		N (360°) at 6 km/h (3 knots)
Maximum winds:	▲	95 km/h (50 knots)
Intensity (SSHWS):	▲	Tropical Storm
Intensity (IMD):		Depression
Minimum pressure:	▼	1004 millibars (29.65 inches)

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Tuesday, 6 June — 11:30 AM IST (06:00 UTC)
(Note: Wind speeds have been converted from ten-minute values to one-minute values.)

Hour	Date	Time		Intensity		Winds		Lat	Long
—	—	UTC	IST	IMD		knots	km/h	°N	°E
00	06 Jun	06:00	11AM Tue	Deep Depression		30	60	11.9	66.0
12	06 Jun	18:00	11PM Tue	Cyclonic Storm	▲	40	70	12.4	66.0
24	07 Jun	06:00	11AM Wed	Cyclonic Storm	▲	45	80	13.0	65.9
36	07 Jun	18:00	11PM Wed	Cyclonic Storm	▲	50	90	13.6	65.8
48	08 Jun	06:00	11AM Thu	Severe Cyclonic Storm	▲	55	100	14.2	65.7
60	08 Jun	18:00	11PM Thu	Severe Cyclonic Storm		55	105	14.8	65.6
72	09 Jun	06:00	11AM Fri	Severe Cyclonic Storm	▲	60	115	15.4	65.5

## Joint Typhoon Warning Center Tuesday, 6 June — 2:30 PM IST (09:00 UTC) JTWC Warning #1

Hour	Date	Time		Intensity		Winds		Lat	Long
	—	UTC	IST	Saffir-Simpson		knots	km/h	°N	°E
00	06 Jun	06:00	11AM Tue	Tropical Storm		50	95	11.9	66.0
12	06 Jun	18:00	11PM Tue	Tropical Storm	▲	60	110	12.4	66.2
24	07 Jun	06:00	11AM Wed	Hurricane (Cat 1)	▲	65	120	12.9	66.4
36	07 Jun	18:00	11PM Wed	Hurricane (Cat 1)	▲	70	130	13.4	66.5
48	08 Jun	06:00	11AM Thu	Hurricane (Cat 1)	▲	75	140	13.9	66.6
72	09 Jun	06:00	11AM Fri	Hurricane (Cat 1)		75	140	15.3	66.5
96	10 Jun	06:00	11AM Sat	Hurricane (Cat 1)	▲	80	150	17.0	66.0
120	11 Jun	06:00	11AM Sun	Hurricane (Cat 2)	▲	85	155	18.4	65.5

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We are currently in a 100+ degree HUMID (the tropics) heat wave with no a/c and the last thing I want to eat are hot meals. I don't mind minimal up front cooking with heat if it provides me a week of straight-out-of-the-fridge meals, but I'd seriously rather die than simmer something for hours or so help me god turn on that oven. What are your favorites that are not gazpacho or cold noodle salads because that seems to be 95% of the recipes I can find for unbearably hot weather.

Kheerganga Trekking Experience: Challenges And Rewards Along The Way

Introduction:

Nestled amidst the majestic peaks of the Himalayas, the Kheerganga Trek offers a truly enchanting experience for nature lovers and adventure seekers. keerganga trek height an altitude of approximately 9,711 feet (2,960 meters), this picturesque trek takes you through breathtaking landscapes, dense forests, and stunning mountain vistas. Located near the quaint village of Kasol in Himachal Pradesh, India, the Kheerganga Trek is a captivating journey that sets the tone for a scenic and adventurous expedition.

Getting There:

To embark on the Kheerganga Trek, the starting point is the charming village of Kasol. Situated on the banks of the Parvati River, kheerganga kasol serves as a popular base for trekkers. The nearest major city is Bhuntar, which is well-connected by road and has an airport. From Bhuntar, it's a scenic drive of around 32 kilometers to reach Kasol. Alternatively, one can also reach Kasol by taking a bus from Delhi or Manali. As you arrive in Kasol, you can feel the excitement building up for the forthcoming adventure.

Trail Description:

The Kheerganga Trek is known for its diverse and captivating trail. In kheerganga trek package , The trekking route takes you through lush green forests, cascading waterfalls, and charming little villages. The path is well-marked, making it suitable for both novice and experienced trekkers. Along the way, you'll encounter beautiful streams, wooden bridges, and occasional sightings of wildlife. The ascent can be challenging at times, but the rewards are well worth the effort.

Trekking Experience:

The kheer ganga trekking typically takes around two days to complete. The duration may vary depending on your pace and the number of stops you make along the way. Several campsites are available in route, providing opportunities to rest and enjoy the surrounding natural beauty. The trek offers breathtaking views of snow-capped peaks, lush valleys, and panoramic vistas that leave you in awe of the Himalayas' grandeur. Each step brings you closer to the summit, where you'll be greeted by the mesmerizing hot springs of Kheerganga.

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Upon reaching Kheerganga, you'll be captivated by its serene and picturesque setting. The highlight of the trek is undoubtedly the natural hot springs, known for their therapeutic properties. During kheerganga trekking Take a dip in the warm waters, surrounded by the majestic mountains, and feel your fatigue melt away. The tranquility of the place allows for moments of relaxation and meditation, providing a much-needed respite from the hustle and bustle of everyday life. The night sky at Kheerganga offers a breathtaking view of stars, making it a perfect spot for stargazing.

Conclusion:

The Kheerganga Trek is an unforgettable journey that showcases the mesmerizing beauty of the Himalayas. With its diverse landscapes, serene atmosphere, and the allure of the hot springs, this trek leaves a lasting impression on every adventurer. The best time to embark on this scenic adventure is from May to November when the weather is pleasant and the trails are accessible. Whether you're a seasoned trekker or a nature enthusiast, the Kheerganga Trek promises an experience that will rejuvenate your soul and create memories to last a lifetime. So, gear up, explore the heart of the Himalayas, and immerse yourself in the scenic beauty of the Kheerganga Trek.
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This is a copy of a post I made on TheSilphRoad (where it was moderated away for reasons I don't understand yet) and on pogoraids.
Dear Silph Road and PoGoRaids communities, dear Pokémon Go community,
Many of you know me directly or indirectly as the (now retired) Silph Road Scientist who used to publish raid attacker spreadsheets, actually even as "prestiger" spreadsheets even before raids existed, who predicted forced nest migrations, or as the co-discoverer (together with u/DrThod_PokemonGo) of the egg rarity tiers, or just as the guy who tried fun and funny raid challenges with teams of small unevolved Pokémon, already before raids were even a thing.
I started playing in July 2016 and I played almost every single day between November 2016 and March 2023.
My passion for statistics / quantitative analysis + geo-located stuff had me hooked, and the challenge of achieving different goals kept me in the game despite the frequent bugs and the lack of communication from Niantic's side.
I decided to stop playing cold turkey when Niantic announced the price increase for remote raid passes, but that was just the final nail in the coffin Koffing in a season full of frustrations, which in turn were only the tip of the iceberg above a huge chunk of unsolved issues.

What promped me to quit the game for good

1) The first frustration was when Master Premier Classic was removed. Master Premier Classic was my best GBL league, I had a well-balanced team (Togekiss - Snorlax - Swampert) that I knew very well and brought me twice to Veteran. Now, to be equally competitive in Master Premier XL, I needed hundreds of XL candies for my team, which were basically locked behind events and trading. That is, easy for people flexible enough to play when Niantic wants, and easy for multiaccounters, but hard for legit players with work and family obligations like me.
2) Then in March I felt for the umpteenth time the rush to remove Frustration exactly in that week because it's just one week (or less) every three months, and not even with a fixed calendar.
3) Meanwhile I was hovering in the 2000s in GBL, without much hope to achieve Veteran any time soon, and still being forced to tank and go back up to get Rare Candies (because a 1-4 followed by a 4-1 gives 3 Rare Candies while two 3-2 sets give 0 Rare Candies).
4) I also realized that the "Go Battle League Pass" locked Elite TMs behind 900-950 battles per quarter, which amount to 20 monthly hours of GBL. At a $15 hourly salary that corresponds to $300 per month i.e. $3600 per year. Not sure if everyone realizes how much time/money it is.
5) At the end of March, the "Bronzor Cup" obviously added to the frustration level.
6) So the remote raiding kill (which not only meant I would have a hard time competing for the pokeraids Phantom Drafts, but also meant that walking to a gym locally, finding no one, and asking for remote help on Discord wouldn't be a possibility anymore) was just the cherry on top.
But these are just the final hits that made me realize there are many more unsolved issues in the game.

What really needs to be fixed

1) The biggest problem of all: This game more and more feels like a series of chores. Gift sending/opening, buddy hearts, Frustration/CDs/events that force you to do something specific at set dates/times... All these things make the game an obligation to play during certain times, and no longer a game that can be played on one's own terms and schedule.
2) Related but slightly different: Rarity goes from "impossible" to "too much of it" AND BACK in a matter of days. I'd spend months chasing a rare Pokémon (e.g. Togetic), only for there to be a 3-hour window where I'd get plenty of it. But if in those 3 hours my daughter's school organizes an event, I may miss 90% of that exclusive time window and go back to "impossible" rarity at the end of the event. It also made any buddy walking or egg hatching or spawn chasing feel useless, because the game now is mostly "play in the scheduled obligation time to get what you need".
3) Being force-fed event after events also deprives players of the time to explore "natural" spawns (which are bad anyway) or nests (which nobody reports anymore because it's pointless on many levels).
4) It's very hard to coordinate with other players. For years we had to just be lucky and bump into other players by chance, and then try to find the right third-party app for that particular community (Telegram, WhatsApp, Discord...). Campfire is too little, too late, and not available for everyone yet.
5) Most game incentives cater to rule violators (mostly spoofers, multiaccounters and account sharers). Raids must be in person? "We'll fly to it." Guaranteed XL from trades? "I don't need your help, I just do 100 daily trades with my baby account." Regional exclusives? "My sister is in New Zealand, if you want I can ask her to catch a Relicanth for you." Especially multiaccounters get a lot of the good stuff: a second account, even without significant work put into it, adds firepower to raids, especially with the Mega attack bonus, it is a better Pokémon transfer "sink" than Professor Willow, who almost never gives XL candy, while "trades" with the alt account are often guaranteed, and a second account of a different team can conveniently take out the demotivated gym placeholders for 50 guaranteed coins a day. I literally emigrated away from a country that implicitly tolerates rule violators. I'm now leaving a game that implicitly tolerates rule violators.
6) Raids have been broken since freaking 2017 and no fix is in sight. I'm referring to the extremely annoying bugs called phantom hits and boss health regeneration.
7) RNG is everywhere. Spawns are random, eggs are random, IVs are random, the number of XL candies is random, GBL encounters are random, raid bosses appear randomly, nests rotate randomly, raid rewards are random, quests are random, and so on and so on. Yes, that's what keeps players trying for more, and yes, in the long term many things even out, but it's still quite frustrating.
8) Many ways of wasting raid passes. People backing out at the last moment because there is no in-game communication channel (and because the number of needed trainers and the actual attacker effectiveness are being kept obscure by Niantic), inability to re-enter when the raid has expired, and the already mentioned raid bugs make raiding sometimes just a waste of time and raid passes.
9) The GBL reward structure incentivizes tanking. Giving rewards on the basis of how many matches have been won within a set instead of overall, coupled with matchmaking based instead on Elo and therefore (roughly) on overall match wins, pushes players to lose matches on purpose in order to win more when their Elo is artificially lower but rewards are higher because of Go Battle Days or just 4-1 being just so much better than 3-2, given the poor average quality of encounters.
10) Communication sucks. It's June 2023 and there is still no way a new player can figure out that at the end of each GBL season the star piece has to be activated before clicking on Battle. And the same goes for a lot of in-game mechanics that can only be figured out by reading a lot of posts here or by trial and error. In addition, often the official blog and even Niantic support give wrong information.

Minor problems

This above was enough to make me quit. But we also have some minor problems that would be nice to be solved because they are additional nuisances:
1) The gym system is stupid. Instead of being competitive (actual battles for gym control among the three teams, with appropriate rewards) or cooperative (before the 2017 gym "reform", players from the same team could "power up" a gym by "training" in a raid-like way), it is just a race to who gets the first 6 spots in an empty gym without any effort (or with variable effort only by the first player) and then hoping that someone from the opposing team kicks out your "defender" after more than 8 hours but possibly every day, but not from all gyms but only one gym a day. Or just multiaccounting (ToS violation) and do it all yourself.
2) Too much focus on Saturdays and Sundays. For me it's a major problem, but I can understand the reason. However I'm around more often Monday to Friday than on weekends, so it's annoying that CDs, raid days and special research events (which are by the way the shortest and the ones that shouldn't be missed) fall on days when I'm not so flexible.
3) Too many pointless time sinks. Pointless animations when fighting gyms, pointless 120-second lobby when soloing a low-tier raid, pointless animations for buddy feeding, pointless need for AR when AR is not functional to the game, pointless Rocket rewards screens, etc.

Conclusion

I hope that someone at Niantic reads half of what I've written, knowing that they have lost one of the (many, but few in percentage) people who have contributed to the growth of the awesome community around this game, and knowing that, if the game is kept in this "alpha-version" state, many other players will leave and move on to something less frustrating and more enjoyable.
I'm thankful to the Silph Road Team (moderators, scientists, researchers, and everyone else) and to the PoGoRaids Team (moderators, draft leaders, and everyone else) and to both TheSilphRoad and pogoraids communities because they have made this not-so-short phase of my playing life more enjoyable despite Niantic.
List of my most significant posts, i.e. my legacy, for those interested:

• The GPS switch-off trick to walk away during the 120s raid lobby: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/ey6ilq/the_gps_switchoff_trick_to_walk_away_during_the/
  
• The disappearing TMs problem, explained to Niantic (who eventually silently fixed it): https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/f2b80z/the_root_cause_of_the_disappeared_tms_double/
  
• Theory of nesting species and how migrations practically work: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/7xatvf/why_aron_nests_are_about_to_host_gen2_starters/ https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/9gks2p/complete_table_for_the_september_1314_forced_nest/
  
• Return on stardust/candy per Pokémon level until 40: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/6r4hxt/chart_return_on_stardustcandy_investment_pe
  
• How many catches/evolves are needed to complete the Hidden Power collection: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/7ajphi/54_caught_suicune_or_starmie_or_porygonporygon2/
  
• How many TMs are required to get the desired moveset on Mew: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/8aypoq/it_takes_13_fast_tms_and_24_charged_tms_on/
  
• Sometimes raid advice doesn't need to be complicated: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/ayb2ay/the_most_compact_rayquaza_raid_advice_for_casuals/
  
• When I was still enthusiastic about the game: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/6o7k96/one_year_as_an_average_silph_road_player_recap/
  
• How the Ingress Sojourner medal actually works: https://www.reddit.com/Ingress/comments/avtdrz/miniresearch_sojourner_cutoff_is_36_hours_from/
  

My "David vs. Goliath" challenges:

• 1000 prestige against Blissey: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/61ynox/1000_prestige_against_blissey_is_definitely/ (my first "raid" before raids were invented)
  
• 6 Venonat vs. Exeggutor: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/87ifpt/the_mighty_mites_exeggutor_solo_with_venonat_yes/
  
• 6 Smoochum against A-Exeggutor: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/9pj6fo/aexeggutor_can_be_defeated_with_a_team_of_l20/
  
• 6 Sudowoodo against Scyther: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/9h50oy/fun_challenge_6_sudowoodo_vs_scyther_no_weathe
  
• Gastly vs. Kirlia 1v1 (with 6 Max Revives): https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/98thng/gastly_1v1_kirlia_using_6_max_revives/
  
• World's first (and maybe last) level-30 Tier 4 solo: https://www.reddit.com/TheSilphRoad/comments/acmbua/rhydon_solo_with_a_level_30_team_in_rain_possibly/
  
• Level 30 Weavile vs. Rocket Leader Sierra: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2SfgmtP0SCg
  

I recently experienced a situation involving nearly 20-30 cats - and now, I am a firm believer that releasing them into the wild is a better option and/or plan than nothing at all.
Let's journey back in time to 2020, when my elderly great Aunt Beatrice and Uncle Jack welcomed a female cat into their home who showed up on their doorstep hungry and meowing away. They live in a somewhat rural area of a small city (30k people) in the midwest about 150 miles from Chicago metro. Unbeknownst to them, the cat was pregnant and, within a matter of days, gave birth to 4 kittens.
Uncle Jack is extremely allergic to cats and the dander from the fur causes him to develop severe rashes throughout his body. Aunt Beatrice did everything she could to find the kittens new homes, but ultimately could not part with two of them, keeping a total of 3 cats in the home. Then, the mother cat escaped beyond one of them when they opened the door to get the mail, only to return about 6 months later (2021) -- pregnant.
This time, the mother cat gave birth to a whole new litter of 4 kittens, making a total of 7 cats in the home. Aunt Beatrice again got to work trying to find a way to adopt out the kittens, but during the pandemic, shelters and resources were maxed out as people were returning their pandemic pets for the sake of living or work obligations. She was only able to adopt out 1 kitten, keeping 6 cats in the home. And this time, Aunt Beatrice managed to get the mother cat spayed at the local vet, but couldn't afford any other spay/neuter care for the other 5 cats.
Thinking that the rest of the cats would never leave their home -- one of the female kittens escaped into the wild, returning months later pregnant with her first litter of 4 kittens. Now, they had 10 cats in the home, and it was becoming more challenging caring for them. The original female cat was officially a grandmother. Uncle Jack began suffering from very serious allergies and feeling sick/ill more frequently. Again, all of the local rescues, humane societies, and even animal control turned them down when they called for help.
Within a matter of a month or so, the daughter of the grandmother cat escaped again, returning to give birth to another set of kittens. She did this another THREE times in 2022 alone. By the end of 2022, they had nearly 16 cats and/or kittens in their home. Christmas 2022, I came to visit them and stayed with them for a week. I called EVERYWHERE within the tri-county area and even out of state to get help for these cats, and everyone was unable to help.
Aunt Beatrice was covered in cat scratches and bites, complaining that they jump and run across her in the middle of the night. Uncle Jack had very serious rashes, and to make matters worse, developed liver failure and had now begun end-of-life care with hospice. Aunt Beatrice wanted to keep them all, Uncle Jack wanted to be rid of them. Family and friends alike advised to kill them ourselves or "wait it out". One family friend offered to feed the cats to their pet snake.
Out of time and out of options, I waited for a warm winter's day, a series of days where the weather was 50-60 degrees. My partner and I drove around for hours, searching for rural area with lots of barns or a small village of houses away from major roads. There, I released 3 cats into the wild. And into the woods they ran. It was all we could grab/find in the house, the rest were scattered and so hard to catch. I, too, was out of time. We returned home and scheduled our return visit for the spring.
In that six months, only two more sets of litters were born -- or so we thought. Aunt Beatrice donated them to the church clergyman who showed up to pray for her at the house. A few of the teenage Jehovah Witnesses took 3 of the kittens. Others ran away and/or escaped from the open door during mail time, never to be seen again. Anyone she could pawn them off onto was welcome to have as many as they could take.
In recent weeks, we came back to visit and help declutter their home. Things are worse than ever before. The smell was immediately sickening. Adult protective services made it clear that the cats had to go. Animal control refused to come pick them up, "We don't even come out for cats anymore," they said. Everyone is booked and full to the brim, resources maxed out. Local vets charge $500 to do a spay or neuter, or wait more than a month to get on the list for the humane society or the spay express at $150/cat. It's a lot of money that we don't have to spend on more than 20+ cats.
We found between 12-16 cats/kittens and two of them were no longer alive on the enclosed back porch, which was so heartbreaking to find. So, with the sun high in the sky and winter long gone, we began the venture of releasing the cats into the wild yet again. We released 7 cats in the first few days, all of which were never friendly or touched by a human. Cats are very intelligent and are rather illusive to catch and/or trap. One of the last ones caught kept hiding under the kitchen sink, but we released her.
The next morning, we found 4 more newborn kittens trapped under a drawer in the kitchen. We think they belonged to the cat that would return to that cabinet often... the one we had already released. We struggled so much with trying to feed the kittens, they just wouldn't take the kitten formula. In a 100 mile radius, we called every. single. rescue. Everyone was full.
We don't have the financial means to pay for vet costs, and they are hefty. My great aunt and uncle couldn't afford it either. We were preparing to watch these kittens pass away from starvation as our every effort failed, and we were completely lost. FINALLY, nearly TWO DAYS after we had already released the mother cat, we found a rescue about 120 miles away that could take all of the kittens - just the kittens. And so, we traveled across state-lines and delivered them into the hands of people who could help, thanking them immensely for their care.
Lastly, we tried again for help with the remaining 5 cats to no avail. No one had room or returned our calls. We released the last 4 cats into remote areas or very small rural towns, off main roads. We released the cats in sets of 2-4 each time so they wouldn't be alone or could hunt/survive together. At least they may have a shot at finding a forever home on a farm than they would being starved to death on a hot enclosed porch or worse.
Uncle Jack has been doing much better without the cats. He's been having much better days. We feel confident the worst of his illness and symptoms came from his high allergy to the cats. The cleanup continues, though. The oldest cat - the one who started this all 3 years ago - ran away during the process. Maybe she might return, maybe not. Who knows. At least she was spayed.
You know, even Chicago intentionally released feral cats onto their streets just for the sake of getting rid of rodent infestation. Cats are accustomed to wild. So, I'd like to think that they are taking care of any mouse problems in the small towns they now reside in. And hopefully, someone may have found themselves an outdoor pet or domesticated one of them.
Do I have any regrets? No, I don't think so. If ever anyone else finds themselves in a situation where they have cats they can't care for and no where to turn, I may advocate for releasing to the wild... albeit maybe spaying or neutering first, if possible.
If you ever found yourself in this situation, I completely understand why you released it into the wild instead of intentionally having it euthanized or turned into food for something else. No judgment whatsoever. It is what it is.
Nearly everyone online will tell you to wait it out for help. I'm here to say that in the worst of situations, sometimes, help never arrives. Sometimes, you have to save yourself... or the ones you love. And that's okay.
If you were me, what could you have done differently?

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6th June 2023
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I did Kambo last month while being around a friend. Probably inspired by her and the male female dynamic. Not that I didn't gain some insights all over the place.
Then after roughly 3 months of close friendship. Poof. Boyfriend in the picture. And I'm relegated to texts replys one to two days after the fact.
This is after hours of conversation nearly daily over those three months.
On top of this triggering abandonment wounds of sorts. Obviously something additionally I need to heal.
Brother whom is estranged and likely very sick keeps begging for connection after years of control and toxicity. Also, for help. Otherwise. He might die.
And I find myself trying to reassert boundaries and basically at this point cut the cord yet my anger and frustration are powerful. As is my resistance.
Recently, I asked the female friend about how I come off via positive or negative. She told me I was 7-9 on the negative side and O or neutral on positive. Clarifying that I'm cognitively positive, but fall back into negativity easily or frequently. Weather it is conscious or subconscious she couldn't tell.
Which hit me pretty hard on top of everything else.
Work has felt frustrating and toxic.
Tried having some conversation only to struggle with my words and my thoughts. Which I know make me seem worse than I am.
I feel back into a new game for distraction. Spending hours. Along with a poor diet. That actually might have some benefits? (Lower HR?)
While avoiding my commitment to yoga.
And I'm venting.
Supposedly there was a work get together today but I wasn't invited. Not that I'm not sure I'd want to go. Strange dichotomy
That said. I have one coworker whom I seemingly look up to via competency and skill only to question them as a person as they routinely talk about enjoying being an asshole.
All the while I'm lost. Again. And trying not to self distruct.

So over the weekend, I took advantage of the warmer weather with my housemate (also trans, and an ex, now closer to a sister, weird relationship) and we went to a hot spring while we were away visiting my family. It was the first time I'd gone anywhere near water since I had bottom surgery and heck, even since I transitioned.
My local pride groups are doing a queer swim and gym regularly and I missed it again because the first time was during another event, this time I was visiting family so I took it as a chance to wear a bikini for the first time ever and I'm actually really happy with myself right now.