How long should monistat stay in

So I know the other party isn't an asshole but I need to know if I am.
So i(26f) have a 6 year old child and currently she is going to my sister's after school until I get off work (330-530) well my sister (24) found out she was pregnant 8 weeks ago, at the time I asked her if she wanted me to find other arrangements for after school care, she told me no that she's good to continue with our arrangement, I said ok and left it at that.
Well today my sister has been having issues for the last 2 weeks with her pregnancy. After she canceled on being able to grab my child from bus I made the decision it would just be easier to sign her up for an after-school program where she will be at the school until I get her after work so I wouldn't have to keep leaving work early whenever she can't grab her due to pregnancy complications.
So when my sister messaged me to ask me how I was doing I let her know that next school year my child will be in a program, we'll my sister and her parents have since all called me an asshole because my sister was using the babysitting money to pay for some of her stuff (about 80$ every two weeks sometimes more if I had to work an extra day or something) aita for signing my child up for a program? Should I let her just keep babysitting seeing as she's wants to spend time with her neice and the money she made paid part of her groceries?

TLDR; Due to an ongoing set of issues since after we began our relationship, I’m considering divorce because they are not getting better. It seems it’s getting worse. I’m heartbroken and lost.
I never thought I would say this but I’m seriously considering it.
My husband and I met last year. We started off dating slow but things picked up after his brother passed away in April from cancer. He leaned on me for comfort and I started to fall in love with him so I was doing whatever I could to be there for him. He proposed in July. We were very much in love and I couldn’t wait to spend the rest of my life with such a sweet and thoughtful man. However, things began to change. We were originally suppose to get married in January but cancelled our wedding when he broke up with me.
He broke up with me because certain friends had been disrespectful (making sexist jokes, using a lot of profanity, and degrading women) when I was around. When I told him I didn’t like it and didn’t want them at our wedding because of their behavior, he got angry. He eventually gave me an ultimatum that either all of his friends can come or we wouldn’t be married.
After some discussion after the ultimatum, we eventually decided on talking to all of them about being on their best behavior and if they apologized for their behavior and were understanding, they can come.
We sat down with the whole ground. Only one friend was sorry and actually stuck up for us. The other one scrolled on his phone the whole time and never said anything. I think my husband was mad it didn’t go completely right and when I stuck to my guns, he got very angry. I left that night to go home and his friends start to trash me. Calling me manipulative. One of them went as far as to say “If you don’t invite my brother, I’m not coming to your wedding.”
I tried to talk to my husband that night because I was scared because he was angry o was sticking to my guns and he might break up with me again. My parents could see I was distraught. They were also scared he would call off the wedding and called him (they realize this was wrong now and have apologized for it). They tried to convince him to console me and tell him I was distraught. He refused to come over and comfort me because his friends were still there and he hadn’t seen them in awhile.
He eventually did come over. He was somewhat comforting but also said I was being manipulative? I don’t know. He went home and after his friends left, we talked on the phone for quite a bit. He was angry I had called because it was late and he just wanted to go to bed. I was terrified though that he was going to end things with me so I was desperate to fix the situation or talk it out. We eventually hung up though.
I went over to the house the next day and tried to reason with him then. He was still angry and throwing around that I was just manipulative and that me feeling that way about his friends was ridiculous and I was overly sensitive. I asked him point blank if he still wanted to marry me. He didn’t say no or yes. He just got quiet. I told him I was taking his silence as a no. He never argued differently. I left that day distraught. I spent the next three/four weeks in emotional hell. I was depressed and didn’t eat. I went to counseling sessions because I felt hopeless. I was suppose to get married and he had chosen his friends over me. I was going to be his wife and be the person who would stick by his side through thick and thin. I had helped him through a traumatic event and he tossed me aside like I was nothing for these people who weren’t all that great to begin with. I loved him so I reached out to him and we talked for a bit and agreed to go to couples counseling. The counselor said I should just forgive the friends because it’s the Christian thing to do. I was going to forgive but that doesn’t mean I’ll ever be comfortable around those certain ones ever again. She didn’t help us much with this issue. But because I loved him and was scared to lose him again, I agreed to let them come to the wedding that we had rescheduled for March. Even though we had a pastor who told us they shouldn’t come because they had been destructive and my husband should honor my wishes.
I didn’t tell my parents these friends were coming. In fact, I lied and said that he had cut them off. I knew if I told them the truth, they wouldn’t allow me to marry him and would want me to continue to talk to him about it because they knew how I truly felt. But i didn’t want to be honest with him because I was scared to lose him. So I continued to lie and say they weren’t coming.
It wasn’t until after the wedding and my parents assuming they had just crashed it that the truth came out. They were heartbroken because I broke their trust and also because they knew my husband wasn’t being the man I had made him out to be. I know I shouldn’t have lie and I feel so much guilt for it. I’ve apologized to them and they have forgiven me. They’re worried about me now though because I shouldn’t have to lie about my marriage and relationship. My husband was also incredibly hateful to my parents and spoke to them so disrespectfully the other day and disrespectfully to me in front because he was angry at them for being worried about me. It was so embarrassing and even kind of scary.
Since then, my marriage has gone downhill. I want him to get rid of these friends because they are truly toxic and he has a track record choosing them over me. I’m at my wits end. I barely speak to him. I show no affection or intimacy. We sleep in the same bed but that’s about it. I won’t even change my clothes in front of him because I feel so much insecurity and unsafe about our marriage now. I’m fed up. I think I’ve made a horrible mistake but at the same time, I love him so much. I know he Dane be better. He has the potential and I do believe he loves me.
I scheduled a meeting with a pastor to try to settle these issues but if he doesn’t agree to getting rid of these people and apologizing to my parents for the way he spoke, I think I’m going to divorce him. I’m heartbroken but I don’t know what else to do. Maybe I put myself in this predicament and I’m to blame, but I loved him and still do and just wanted to be with him. I also think about the fact that he was my first because I saved myself for my husband. If I divorce him, he will still have that piece of me and if I remarry, I won’t be able to share that gift again with someone else. I feel so much guilt from that because it feels like because I’ve left my marriage fail, I must be disappointing God too. Maybe I was never suppose to marry him and went against God’s wishes for me but I thought this is what He wanted for me. I just don’t know. I’m lost, confused, and heartbroken.

Prepare yourself for a pretty long post, but I just really have to put it out there. Reddit have been my output/diary and I really do hope that posting here helps not only me but also some of you guy.
Let me tell you guys I think this REALLY is worth it, I mean the recovery. (btw I always knew that it was but kinda couldn't have imagined myself to doing it). Okay so quick update I have being doing the all-in recovery since February, and by all-in I really do mean eat and eat and gain and then eat again. I would say that the first 3 months have been really tough, this involved: crying, really "hating" my body, being scared, ditching social events just to sleep, eat and relax, and being my biggest judge. Since the end of May, I am really starting to feel like myself and not someone who is only thinking about food, calories, and movement.
Main points:
-Food, I think I have eaten everything and more, I am excited to eat new things, cook, eat what I want whenever I want, spend time with my loved ones and if there is food around I enjoy it and move on. Remember there is nothing bad about eating more, and having fun around food, it is normal to share a good time by eating together. The Most important thing to remember is that there is not such a thing as TOO much food.
-Body, oh... if you guys saw me 4 months ago you wouldn't have recognized me now probably, but I did get that a few times when I was deep in my ed, people who saw me after a long time couldn't believe how sick I was. I call it sick now but before it was a compliment, now I know that they were shocked and worried. Clothes...yeah need a whole new wardrobe, good thing that my style is pretty baggy and oversized so the big tees saved me, my beautiful fluffy tummy made me go up 4 sizes in pants. My weight gain has been the hardest part, but also to be honest the best part. I can finally able to sit comfortably and my whole body doesn't ache when I sleep.
-Life, really has become so much more enjoyable, I am planning events, trips etc. and not meals. I have picked up my hobbies again and I am excited to find new things I am passionate about. I am in my 3rd year of uni, and I can finally study freely with my friends in a real way and learn, read books, watch movies, and listen to music. I am going to parties, dancing, having fun getting drunk and then eating a huge KEBAB at 4am with my bffs. These last few months have been the best months in my uni life, unfortunately, I spent the rest deep in ed. My mind has cleared up, not foggy anymore so I have so much more place to daydream and fantasize. I am taking myself on dates to the places I wanted to enjoy, including cafes, bakeries, and restaurants.
-Mindset, I can't say I am comfortable in my body to be honest but I am comfortable in my mind. I relive this is all about the mindset, I try to tell myself that I am doing this for my future, that weird process will end and I will be free. Sometimes I need to tell myself that everything will be okay, and see the bigger picture. To be honest I have stopped thinking that much about it, most days I just don't give a f*ck and just live. I spent my days watching WIEIAD, reading about ed, recovery, watching fitness videos etc. but now they have become the most boring thing ever. I don't have a place for them in my life, mind, and time.
-Reactions,yep I have gotten a few comments like: "Wow you are going so fast", my answer. okay why should I take it slow, this is my life and my way, no point in wasting it on taking it slow. "Are you going to start going to the gym again, nothing bad I am just surprised that you have changed that fast", this hit hard to be honest, cried my eyes out, and answered this is my life, my body and I am the only one deciding what I want to do with it. I just don't want to workout, too tired for that, if I am ready to start movement again I want to do it for fun. OFC I have days where I still care about other people's opinion but at the end of the day I am the only one who is spending with myself 24/7 and my opinion is the only one that matters, that is why my priority is health and happiness, so for all the people out there judging give it a break and mind your own business.
My side effects of recovery: Extreme hunger still going strong but I really can see the end of it, fluffy body(doubled my weight), water retention, sleepiness the first 3 months(now I have so much energy), HAPPINESS
Not gonna lie I go a little teary-eyed writing this, I am really glad I am doing this.
This is not the end of the recovery process, I will probably have a lot of bad days, beacuse life tends to be a bumpy ride, but I do believe all of this is worth it.
I hope this post can motivate you to start fighting or keep going, take your time, do it the way you want to do it, don't care about other people and what they have to say about it all. Be patient with the process and yourself. Go with the flow when it comes to EH.
Thank you for reading this scribble

I just finished the cup by grinding the 100 necessary points and I really have mixed feelings about it.
Pros: - It was fun for the first 5 matches to fight against other unlevelled teams. Felt a lot like the first days of the game, when white passing ruled everything and skills where rare. - Grinding didn’t take as long as I was expecting. I was afraid the farming would be unlimited, in fact it’s pretty ok. You don’t even need to level your players to get the rewards, just loose quickly or find a weak opponent. - I finally found some use to all those farmable skills I got these past few years. - We get farmable players to BB our main players.
Cons: - Matches are brainless. Red and Green Misaki, Truebasa are unstoppable. Matsuyama can score from his own goal. 3 shots to any GK and his stamina is gone. - No competition. No need to try hard against fully prepared opponents, you will get a point anyway or just quit and find someone weaker. No need to really prepare your team for the same reason. I reckon that when we will move to later players that most users have, it will be different through. - Ranted players are fully useless.
So all in all, I had fun during the 5 first matches. Then I just spammed red Misaki and Matsuyama until the end. I’m waiting to see how all this will evolve with new sets of player but I’m sure I will miss the competitive aspect of the previous cups.
What do you think of it?

I dont know basically anything thats on this game (although i know the mechanics of the series because i watched a lot of Fear and Hunger 1 content) so i got a few questions (no major spoilers pls)
1- Is it worth playing the long introduction? I spent about 15 minutes or more there just to get my ass beaten and die (i am a yellow mage, idk if that changes something)
2- Does passing the days make some characters unrecruitable? I saw a bro (that i presume is the "salaryman") being decapitated by the syringe psycho, i know he would kill other characters throughout the days, i managed to kill him but i still wanna know if the characters are in a big danger
3- How can i use soul stones? I killed a lot of different types of villagers and i couldnt use the soul stone i got on the intro in any of them

So, I was watching this video from Wikitongues that was just showing this girl speaking Swedish, in the comments people were talking about how Swedish has this very springy tone to it and how they really liked it. Since Norwegian and Swedish are super duper similar, are the tone indicators the same? Should I be speaking with that lighter bouncier tone that Swedish is known for to be more fluent? I think I have some of it down (learning it accidentally), however, are there specific things about it I should know?

I work in a hospital sterilizing and cleaning ORs after each surgery, a job at which I'm underpaid and underappreciated (not to mention it's utterly exhausting on busy days) for but what happened really pissed me off. This particular rural hospital typically closes for major holidays unless there's an immediate need to call people in, but they put in PTO whether you want them to or not for the day as long as you've got the balance. However I'm struggling to keep up with bills paycheck so the week after Memorial day I picked extra hours, okayed to stay later because part of the night crew was out for the week. So I managed to rack up like 9 extra hours thinking this would be a nice paycheck that would really help me out right now. But no, I was essentially scammed into working extra hours for nothing because they only allow 4 hours extra on your check according to payroll if you're using PTO, mind you however it's PTO I am obligated to use because of the holiday. So instead of getting 89 hours and sacrificing time with my partner feeling like it was worthwhile. I instead lose 9 hours of my life to be paid for 4 and retain 5 additional hours of overtime.
I wouldn't be nearly as mad if any of this was relayed to me ahead of time (I would never have worked more than 4 hours) and if it was at all easy to get them to approve the use of PTO (there's only 2 doing this job for any given shift) so they rarely will allow anyone the time off. I'm furious, I worked extra hours only to be "given" back PTO that other than major holidays is practically impossible to use. My working literally only benefited the hospital and I got nothing from it.

What's going on?
A recent Reddit policy change threatens to kill many beloved third-party mobile apps, making a great many quality-of-life features not seen in the official mobile app permanently inaccessible to users.
On May 31, 2023, Reddit announced they were raising the price to make calls to their API from being free to a level that will kill every third party app on Reddit, from Apollo to Reddit is Fun to Narwhal to BaconReader.
Even if you're not a mobile user and don't use any of those apps, this is a step toward killing other ways of customizing Reddit, such as Reddit Enhancement Suite or the use of the old.reddit.com desktop interface.
This isn't only a problem on the user level: many subreddit moderators depend on tools only available outside the official app to keep their communities on-topic and spam-free.
What's the plan?
On June 12th, many subreddits will be going dark to protest this policy. Some will return after 48 hours: others will go away permanently unless the issue is adequately addressed, since many moderators aren't able to put in the work they do with the poor tools available through the official app. This isn't something any of us do lightly: we do what we do because we love Reddit, and we truly believe this change will make it impossible to keep doing what we love.
The two-day blackout isn't the goal, and it isn't the end. Should things reach the 14th with no sign of Reddit choosing to fix what they've broken, we'll use the community as a tool for further action.
What can you do as a user?
• Complain. Message the mods of /reddit.com, who are the admins of the site: message reddit: submit a support request: comment in relevant threads on /reddit, such as this one, leave a negative review on their official iOS or Android app- and sign your username in support to this post.
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Hello everyone! About two years ago, I posted a rant about not liking my mother tongue and having a hard time with that. ( Here’s the link to the original post in case anyone was wondering https://www.reddit.com/multilingualparenting/comments/naunm8/i_dont_like_my_mother_tongue/ ) My dad is Dutch and mom Croatian but I grew up in Vienna so German was also an important language. Many of you have recommended that I listen to more music in Croatian, or try to read more poetry and books in general and here are the results so far! The summer before my high school graduation, I have been reading like a thousand books in Croatian! It was insane! I was also listening to a lot of music and watching movies and it has helped me so much “to fall back in love” ! I also started making more Croatian friends, as I started going on concerts there more and all sorts of different events, and in my opinion, that was the most important part! To actually get a chance to engage with the culture, community and people and not only the language itself! I currently live in Zagreb, the Croatian capital, where my family is from and I am studying Psychology and History here at university! I am so happy now and finally feel at peace with regards to language and belonging to the culture in general! I hope this comes as some sort of encouragement, I am so glad and thankful that my parents raised me multilingual even though it was tough at times (obviously) but it is so rewarding now! As my parents are still in Austria, when I get a chance to visit them for long weekends or when they come see me, I talk to my mom in Croatian and dad in Dutch and our “lingua franca” is still German, although we are using a lot of Croatian when we are all together (my dad is intermediate) Not to mention how much has my multilingualism helped me get more opportunities at university, in regards to volunteering, projects etc! I really appreciate all of the responses and suggestions I got from my previous post and I felt obliged to share my experiences and help you out as well! Thank you all immensely!

Me and my ex bf were together for about 5 ish months. We recently ended things a couple days ago. I know a lot of people say high school relationships never last and you will forget about it in the future, which may be true but I’ll never forget how he treated me. I met this kid before my 2nd year high school. He was older than me. I just got out of a relationship with someone else that cheated on me with multiple people. I thought that I wouldn’t be able to like anyone else, I was hurt and I didn’t handle the pain well. Then I met him again. We reconnected and he asked me to be his gf on Christmas Eve. I was over joyed I liked this kid so much. He saved me from a time of hard ache and I thanked him for that. Throughout the months I would be so happy seeing him in the halls, spending time outside of school and everything a happy little couple would do. Fast forward to after spring break. Something happened. I’m not sure on what but he wasn’t making effort to hang out with me anymore. It was always me asking. Which was fine because he would normally say yes, but I get this message from him during class this one day middle of April I believe. He told me that he was stressed out and he thought that I had something with his friend. I had to reassure him that I would never ever do that to him because I know how that feels. He was relieved when I told him but I was kinda scared that he was thinking about that. We talked it out and everything was okay again. But he still didn’t make effort to do anything with me. The last time that I hung out with him outside of school was on May 6th after that everything changed. I had a choir concert that I really wanted him to go to on the 18th of may. He told me that he had soccer practice and wasn’t able to make it. I asked him why? “You know I have solos tonight and I really want you to be there” he told me that he wasn’t able to go because his team had a pet fish that died and he needed to be there for the funeral. Yes guys the burial of a fish. I was really heartbroken because I wanted him to be there. He ended up moving this “fish funeral” to a couple days before. So I asked him “now that you had this fish funeral can you come to my concert?” He said “i have a job orientation and I have practice. It’s open turf, I want to be there”. That really hurt me because you can skip one practice and it’s not going to end everything because my concert had two times one at 5pm and one at 7pm. He had the job orientation at 4 which means he couldn’t come to the first one but why couldn’t he come to the second cus of what soccer? Whatever I did my concert and had fun with my friends. I still was sad that I wouldn’t be able to see him in the crowd but I let it go a couple days later. Fast forward to the end of may. We still haven’t hung out outside of school and I was worried he wouldn’t have time for me in the summer due to the reason that he worked every weekday from 6am-3pm with having soccer 3 times a week. I didn’t have a busy work schedule at the time and was free whenever. I messaged him June 2 and I told him that I was scared that he wouldn’t be able to prioritize me during the summer. I was near his house because of a party and I told him you should come pick me up. I didn’t receive a answer. It was the last day of school and we had all this time to get together before I left out of town for the weekend. He told me he had plans but never specifically said what. And in his defense these were plans that were planned months ago but didn’t resurface till the day of so he didn’t know exactly what they were doing. My close friend messaged me and said “i see your bf at this park” and I said “do you mind taking a picture of him so I can see if it really was him”, and it was. He later answered me and said sorry we couldn’t do anything and said “yn i will prioritize you in the summer” but I was already mad that he didn’t tell me exactly where he was going and answered me hours after. He then messaged me and asked if we could talk. I was scared. My parents knew and I wasn’t admitting it. I answered the call and said. “ I know you have had a shitty week already and I’m sorry but I just can’t do this anymore I think we need to break up”. My heart dropped to the floor. I was in complete shock and I was shaking. I didn’t know how to answer, I didn’t know what to do and it was just silence for a bit. He told me that he was wasting his happiness on me, that I brought negativity, and he has had enough. I sat there and I said “ wasting your happiness?” What do you mean by that. He told me that he just wasn’t happy with me anymore. He told me that he was going to break up with me a week ago prior to this call. I started to cry because all this time that I thought everything was okay he has been faking it this entire time. I asked him. “ why can’t we just talk this out like work on ourselves and stay together”. ( I was trying to save the relationship the best I could) he told me “ I’ve had enough, I’m done” and that really hurt me. He said that he didn’t like it when I used “at least you..” in a sentence. Like example: I’m in the upstairs gym. And to be funny I would always be like “at least you aren’t in the downstairs gym for choir”. He told me that he didn’t like it when I said that. He told me that he couldn’t rant to me because I apparently said that too much. I got really upset because if he really wanted to tell me something serious then he should of just said that. We have had a past conversation about this and I thought he understood but I guess not. But what really made me upset was that he was unhappy and when my friend asked him why he broke up with me he told her “ I was just unhappy with her”. “I wasted my happiness” WHO GIVES THAT AS AN EXCUSE. I am still hurt and I don’t understand why. What negativity did I bring? By saying at least? I was upset that he told my friend what happened before I could. My friend messaged me and said “what did you do” like automatically blaming it on me when I still don’t know what I did or what happened in the last 48 hours. He told my friends but I respected this kid and I didn’t tell his friends that asked what happen. I told them that” when he’s ready he will tell you it’s not my place to say what Happened” I still respected him after the break up. He didn’t. On that call the got angrier and angrier while I was trying to save the relationship and crying and shaking. He didn’t have any remorse really and it seemed like he just went completely heartless. He ended that call by saying “maybe we can restart in the fall if we see each other again”. Originally I was set on that. But the more I think about it why would I want to go back to someone that said I brought them negativity? He un-added me on socials the next morning. I just felt lost I didn’t eat anything for2 days I couldn’t believe that this was real. Who is in the wrong? Any advice at this point. Things I can do to not blame myself, activities I can do just anything.

Hello ! Not a rant about my players, I'll explain myself. (also english is not my main language, please don't hesitate to tell me if I should reformulate something)
So my party were newbies when we began this campaign, two years ago, so now they got most of the rules and how we play, they takes decisions, that's cool. But often they start stuff, with planning, thinking and all... for nothing.
Here's an example : The party must prevent an commercial alliance between two countries. Sounds difficult, but the idea is that the two countries want to make a commercial route to move goods with a zeppelin, and the two countries don't trust each other, so the patron explains that if they prevent the first delivery attempt, the project will be cancelled.
I know it's not really realistic, but I'm trying to make a transition between straightforward quests and a bit more political stuff, since they're gaining importance.
So here's their plan: infiltrate the place where the zeppelin is stored during the night. They're planning how they're going in, get informations of how the place is guarded, and stuff. I was actually pretty proud of them. Once they're in, problem : they have no idea of why they wanted to go in.
I was told I guided them a bit too much at the beginning of the campign, so described the place, and asked them what was the next step of the plan. They had no idea. All this planning, and no real goal. Their plan was to go inside.
I mean, they had options, like sabotage/destroy the zeppelin, or try to find and kill the mysterious boss of the place they've heard of but never seen in person, or infiltrate the zeppelin to make the delivery fail while flying, or anything else.
I had to force things a bit, or else nothing was going to happen. They were noticing they didn't have any real goal in coming here, and I don't want them to feel stupid, but I honestly didn't know how to react. Since they were doing nothing themselves, I made things happen to them, to get things going. The boss of the place is a homebrewed monster that can go invisible, and the party was also invisible, so I played with it like "you feel something big moving very close to you, a heavy breathing warming your face, then it's gone. The thing didn't perceive your presence". That worked, it got a reaction from the players. Then they started blasting.
I was surprised, that was very sudden. I asked why, they had once again no idea ! No thinking about the consequences, no plan, no goal ! There's a monster, not really aggressive, really just checking for intruders, because it's his place, they're trespassing. Clearly a stealth mission. Started blasting.
I don't understand, and I really don't know how to react. I can't just make all the guards of the town come because of the noise, I don't want a TPK or them to be outlaws.
Did someone already experience that kind of behaviour ? Or am I in the wrong here ? Did I miss something ?
TLDR : Don't know how to react to players doing illogical stuff

What are the best and worst songs from the Book of Souls?
I've got to be honest... I still don't think much to the Book of Souls. When I first listened and was greeted by that horrible MIDI keyboard pipe noise I just couldn't believe that Iron Bloody Maiden couldn't find someone to play some pan pipes properly for them. The murky production doesn't help and the album is overstuffed. Some songs like the Red and the Black, although great live, just don't feel like they need to be that long. The transitions just don't seem natural to me and they repeat and repeat just for the sake of making the song longer. Songs back in the early days like Back in the Village were not particularly strong but they dont go on for too long and they're stronger for it. Anyway, I'm rambling a bit. The album still has some great songs.
Best: the Great Unknown
For me, this is just a perfect reunion era Maiden track. Great atmosphere, moody build up, one solo from each guitarist, excellent harmony sections and Bruce really taking command of his vocals and taking you thematically where the song wants to be. This song sounds like it comes straight from a better album and I always enjoy this song thoroughly.
Worst: Man of Sorrows
Honestly don't really remember too much about this song apart from the awkward chorus and the boring jam-like verses that just kind of groove on the one chord. The outro is pretty moody and cool and is honestly the best part about the song but the rest of it sums up the worst of Iron Maiden on these past couple of albums. Plodding and uninspired.
Hidden Gem: When the River Runs Deep
I really enjoy this song for its energy. I didn't like the intro at first but it's grown on me a lot and I love the half time chorus. The solo section is excellent and Bruce sounds excellent throughout.
I know I may be hitting some nerves with my opinions on this album but honestly I think this album would've been much stronger with just a few changes. I would cut out Man of Sorrows, Shadows of the Valley and Tears of a Clown. Then I would make If Eternity Should Fail not repeat the chorus a thousand times at the end (maybe make it end with the sped up section) and then trim parts of the Red and the Black down so its not so needlessly long. I honestly think that would make the album miles better and not make it a double album. I honestly don't like the artwork either. I like the design of Eddie but the black background is just a bit bland.
Again, I know I'm in the minority with my opinions on the Book of Souls but I've tried and tried with it and I just can't get out of my head how it should have been. Not a bad album by any means but definitely a bloated one. A lot of people seem to love this album and I've just never understood the hype.

TLDR; Due to an ongoing set of issues since after we began dating and they haven’t been resolved, I’m considering divorce. I’m heartbroken and lost.
I never thought I would say this but I’m seriously considering it.
My husband and I met last year. We started off dating slow but things picked up after his brother passed away in April from cancer. He leaned on me for comfort and I started to fall in love with him so I was doing whatever I could to be there for him. He proposed in July. We were very much in love and I couldn’t wait to spend the rest of my life with such a sweet and thoughtful man. However, things began to change. We were originally suppose to get married in January but cancelled our wedding when he broke up with me.
He broke up with me because certain friends had been disrespectful (making sexist jokes, using a lot of profanity, and degrading women) when I was around. When I told him I didn’t like it and didn’t want them at our wedding because of their behavior, he got angry. He eventually gave me an ultimatum that either all of his friends can come or we wouldn’t be married.
After some discussion after the ultimatum, we eventually decided on talking to all of them about being on their best behavior and if they apologized for their behavior and were understanding, they can come.
We sat down with the whole group. Only one friend was sorry and actually stuck up for us. The other one scrolled on his phone the whole time and never said anything. I think my husband was mad it didn’t go completely right and when I stuck to my guns, he got very angry. I left that night to go home and his friends start to trash me. Calling me manipulative. One of them went as far as to say “If you don’t invite my brother, I’m not coming to your wedding.”
I tried to talk to my husband that night because I was scared because he was angry o was sticking to my guns and he might break up with me again. My parents could see I was distraught. They were also scared he would call off the wedding and called him (they realize this was wrong now and have apologized for it). They tried to convince him to console me and tell him I was distraught. He refused to come over and comfort me because his friends were still there and he hadn’t seen them in awhile.
He eventually did come over. He was somewhat comforting but also said I was being manipulative? I don’t know. He went home and after his friends left, we talked on the phone for quite a bit. He was angry I had called because it was late and he just wanted to go to bed. I was terrified though that he was going to end things with me so I was desperate to fix the situation or talk it out. We eventually hung up though.
I went over to the house the next day and tried to reason with him then. He was still angry and throwing around that I was just manipulative and that me feeling that way about his friends was ridiculous and I was overly sensitive. I asked him point blank if he still wanted to marry me. He didn’t say no or yes. He just got quiet. I told him I was taking his silence as a no. He never argued differently. I left that day distraught. I spent the next three/four weeks in emotional hell. I was depressed and didn’t eat. I went to counseling sessions because I felt hopeless. I was suppose to get married and he had chosen his friends over me. I was going to be his wife and be the person who would stick by his side through thick and thin. I had helped him through a traumatic event and he tossed me aside like I was nothing for these people who weren’t all that great to begin with. I loved him so I reached out to him and we talked for a bit and agreed to go to couples counseling. The counselor said I should just forgive the friends because it’s the Christian thing to do. I was going to forgive but that doesn’t mean I’ll ever be comfortable around those certain ones ever again. She didn’t help us much with this issue. But because I loved him and was scared to lose him again, I agreed to let them come to the wedding that we had rescheduled for March. Even though we had a pastor who told us they shouldn’t come because they had been destructive and my husband should honor my wishes.
I didn’t tell my parents these friends were coming. In fact, I lied and said that he had cut them off. I knew if I told them the truth, they wouldn’t allow me to marry him and would want me to continue to talk to him about it because they knew how I truly felt. But i didn’t want to be honest with him because I was scared to lose him. So I continued to lie and say they weren’t coming.
It wasn’t until after the wedding and my parents assuming they had just crashed it that the truth came out. They were heartbroken because I broke their trust and also because they knew my husband wasn’t being the man I had made him out to be. I know I shouldn’t have lie and I feel so much guilt for it. I’ve apologized to them and they have forgiven me. They’re worried about me now though because I shouldn’t have to lie about my marriage and relationship. My husband was also incredibly hateful to my parents and spoke to them so disrespectfully the other day and disrespectfully to me in front because he was angry at them for being worried about me. It was so embarrassing and even kind of scary.
Since then, my marriage has gone downhill. I want him to get rid of these friends because they are truly toxic and he has a track record choosing them over me. I’m at my wits end. I barely speak to him. I show no affection or intimacy. We sleep in the same bed but that’s about it. I won’t even change my clothes in front of him because I feel so much insecurity and unsafe about our marriage now. I’m fed up. I think I’ve made a horrible mistake but at the same time, I love him so much. I know he Dane be better. He has the potential and I do believe he loves me.
I scheduled a meeting with a pastor to try to settle these issues but if he doesn’t agree to getting rid of these people and apologizing to my parents for the way he spoke, I think I’m going to divorce him. I’m heartbroken but I don’t know what else to do. Maybe I put myself in this predicament and I’m to blame, but I loved him and still do and just wanted to be with him. I also think about the fact that he was my first because I saved myself for my husband. If I divorce him, he will still have that piece of me and if I remarry, I won’t be able to share that gift again with someone else. I feel so much guilt from that because it feels like because I’ve left my marriage fail, I must be disappointing God too. Maybe I was never suppose to marry him and went against God’s wishes for me but I thought this is what He wanted for me. I just don’t know. I’m lost, confused, and heartbroken.

To the judicious and impartial reader,
twelve blessings to you. As you most probably well know I was honoured with a I probably don’t need to stress it, but let me just briefly state that it was a tremendous honour for all entire household and, of course, To educate future archking is a grave task as much as it is a great privilege. I hope that his tender years.
I would like to acknowledge help which was provided by the Chair of were procured for me for this task alone, almost all of them smuggled through the border with Ashenheart or Nibennûl. I do well know that it yet still I feel personally obliged to all brave mer and womer who my humble person.
To all those who participated in rumours, in gossip and in slander: it is of course beneath me to address you . Nevertheless I implore you to please consider oaths you have taken before altars of Hœrmius the All-Faced when you took your educational charge. All knowledge is worthy and pious if it serves others. Let the reader understand.
Lightlady and All the Divinites be with you.
Ossinda-ta-Ædramalada, emeritus, previously at Cay-tar University
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Here is a brief description of all of the Ten Dædric Princes who rule over the Oblivion, who are known among Men of the East as Voices or as .
ALD AKAT: The Madgod, The Great Wyrm, The Grand Dragon: it is a mad god of cruelty, destruction, blasphemy and devastation. He is a cacophony of roaring voices speaking with tongues of black, living flame. Of all the Princes he alone receives almost no cultus or any other form of organized worship. Only the deranged and dregs of society call upon the name of the Great Wyrm. Cultists of Ald Akat regularly indulge in cannibalism as a perverse form of establishing complete control over others. > time, <>, is an arrow which pierces the sun>
ARK: The Grim God, Endless One, Blackmoon, Gray Lady: it is a god and goddess of undeath, pain, struggle and obsession. Those who pray to Ark are divided as to his or her gender. As far as I am aware in the south Ark is more traditionally depicted as a female, while in the east it’s usually a man. It matters little. Cultus of Ark is devoted to one aim only: rejection of the flesh and life and embracing state of undeath. Ark is Prince of those who strive to overcome mortality and achieve perfection in endless existence. Overall those who pray to the Endless One are considered to be one of the rather harmless dædraphilics, though one should always have in mind that they are exceptionally callous, ruthless and determined in their goals. Hunting down those who embrace cultus of Ark is one of the main tenets of Peryiatic faith.

HROLL STAINDARR: The Pale Bull, Horned God, Silent Lord, King of Beyond-the-Twilight: it is a god of tyranny, domination, rule of might, industry and divide. Hroll Staindarr is considered to be among the most powerful of all the Princes. His oblivial domains are vast and strong. Denizens of his Chained Countries toil in endless mists and everlasting twilight under direction of merciless lesser dædra who serve the Horned God. Prince himself never speaks, always communicating through his messengers, a group of powerful demigods called the Vigilants. Silent Lord commands his followers to dominate lesser beings, to show their mastery through industry and endeavour, to always seek betterment of themselves and ultimate freedom which lies in independency. Weak must fear the strong is one of the most popular Staindarrite dogmas. Cultus of the Pale Bull is an official state religion of mannish realm of Ashenheart. Men who live there believe that their reigning queens-priestesses are selected wives of the god, who himself incarnated and resides deep within the Living Flame, greatest volcano in all of Tamriel.

KYNÆRAT: Heavensqueen, White Raven, The Vengeful: it is a goddess of the hunt, of revenge, schemes, plots and hate. Capricious Heavensqueen is one of the greatest of all the Dædra. She rules over a vast oblivial realm resembling endless mountaintops and snowy valleys, where giant birds prey on the weak and lost. She demands of her followers to follow their instincts, to bring her glory through fair chase and hunting, to take revenge for all slights. Cultus of Kynærat is a public religion of Nibennûl. Man-bull descendants of one of her many, many demigod sons still rule there in the south and claim divine right over all of the world.

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ZÆNNIS ATHAR: